Do you consider yourself a “people pleaser”? Always feeling the pressure to make others happy, receive their approval, gain their praise? Do you find yourself putting others first, even when it’s taking away from you, your family, or your health?
People pleasers are some of the greatest friends to have, they are always there for you, and prompt to rescue you from troubles. However, being a people pleaser isn’t quite so great. Take it from me, a recovering “pleaser”, it can be tough to say “no.”
My personal journey to recovery truly kicked off when I began to understand my value and worth in God. It may sound silly, but it’s true. “Pleasers” often times suffer from a condition called, insecurity We tend to think more of others and less of ourselves. When it comes down to the wire, we most likely choose serving others than caring for ourselves. Once you realize that your worth, security, and value come from above and there’s NOTHING you can do to EARN it – you’ll be set free!
Take heart….you have hope! If I can recover from this terrible thing, you can too!
- Once you begin to realize that you are accountable to God, not others, you will begin to see things more clearly.
- Setting priorities and boundaries is crucial as well. Always remember: God 1st, Husband 2nd, Children 3rd and go from there – and don’t forget about yourself!
- Remember the 2 greatest commands: Love the Lord your God and Love others as yourself. You can’t truly love, serve, or please others until you’ve put God (and His priorities and will) 1st and then loved yourself!
Finally, realize that there are a lot of us out there! Some of us are recovering and others are in full-swing “pleasing” mode – so beware! Many times “pleasers” will actually be some of the worst offenders! Not only do they put pressure on themselves, but they’ll inadvertently pressure you too. When you feel pressure from someone to over extend yourself, step back, and look at the person applying the pressure. Separate yourself emotionally, don’t accept the burden, and begin praying they find freedom. Don’t take on their stress. Don’t accept responsibility that’s not yours!
You are valuable, worthy, and RESTORED in Him. The ONLY one you have to please is above, and He wants to take your burdens, not apply more!
“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Psalm 139:14